Ready or not, the holidays are here. Whether you relish or dread the holidays, I’ve got some easy tips to help you to thrive through, and not just survive through the holidays.
Get a plan
Lonely or happy. You get to choose. Start by choosing to show up at the gatherings you are invited to. Are you going home for the Holidays? Have you been invited multiple places? Use that word you have been taught to fear, and say YES. Why? It gets you out of your normal circle, and gets you out there. There is a higher chance that you will meet that special someone who is also looking for love if you are not hiding out at home. Freshen up your look, pull out your party dress and shoes, and get out there. As a matter of fact, take out your phone, and RSVP to that email, phone call or text. You’ll be glad you did.
Make a Holiday Bucket list
What are the things that you love that only come around this time of year? Is it a meal, a song, a show, the decor at a certain place. Take time and write down all the places you want to go and things you want to do through the season. The planning and anticipation can be as fun as the events themselves.
Ditch the Rom Coms
It’s all fun and games until you start comparing your life to a made up romantic comedy or a fantasy you
have read in a book. Just for the holidays put the sappy stuff aside. Engage fully in the life that you have and keep your mind grounded. Your heart will thank you.
Gratitude and Giving Back
Find a way to give to someone who is hurting or in need this holiday. There is an exchange that happens when you get your eyes off of your own problems. When you give, you begin to see all the things that you have, instead of all of the things that you do not have. Find a foster family, a nursing home, a group home or a widow who is shut in, and go serve them. You could bring a meal, or do a chore that may be difficult for them to get done. Better yet, get together with a group of friends and go give together. You will build camaraderie and do good at the same time.
Throw your own Singles party
So you’ve been invited to parties, but the thought of watching one more pair of smooching love birds has got you feeling queasy. Well, throw a co-ed friendsgiving or ugly sweater party and have the gang over(including that crush of yours). Getting in the kitchen can lift your spirit and put you in a celebrating mood. Even if you can’t cook, you can still arrange your favorite hors d’oeuvres or have a potluck and ask everyone to bring their favorites. Pull out the games, go caroling or on a light tour. You never know, love might find you when you least expect it.
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